Lovely! This speaks to me exactly where I am right now! In my own work, I have adopted explicit consent to guide me in forming close relationships. It provides me the safety to be authentic, maintain boundaries and integrity. How wonderful it would be if it did expand to the entirety of the culture!
"We carry people’s potential and damage with us like treasure" - how poignantly beautiful and accurate. Compulsion and other non-consensual behaviors are not only obstacles, they can decimate the hard-fought work and obliterate the integrity of all involved. As I gather the broken pieces of my life (again), your words bolster me to show up, do the work and continue the Journey.
I'm so glad to be of service on your journey. This work is NO JOKE. But it is real, and possible, and powerful, as, clearly, are you. So happy to have you here.
"We carry people’s potential and damage with us like treasure" - yes! ours and that which belongs to our loves... i can own trying to mash them all together, imagining there is some way to enjoy the compatibility of our baggage while ignoring (in some sense) the heaviness that has held me down for so many years. so.much.work.
Asha I'm going to read this one a couple of times over the weekend. There is a lot to dig into in this post. There many soul rippling moments in this piece but to pause too long in the first read would mean I wouldn't finish and to reach the end brings such completeness. It's like when you watch a movie that is so funny you have to watch it more than once because you laughed through some of the jokes.
Lovely! This speaks to me exactly where I am right now! In my own work, I have adopted explicit consent to guide me in forming close relationships. It provides me the safety to be authentic, maintain boundaries and integrity. How wonderful it would be if it did expand to the entirety of the culture!
"We carry people’s potential and damage with us like treasure" - how poignantly beautiful and accurate. Compulsion and other non-consensual behaviors are not only obstacles, they can decimate the hard-fought work and obliterate the integrity of all involved. As I gather the broken pieces of my life (again), your words bolster me to show up, do the work and continue the Journey.
I'm so glad to be of service on your journey. This work is NO JOKE. But it is real, and possible, and powerful, as, clearly, are you. So happy to have you here.
"We carry people’s potential and damage with us like treasure" - yes! ours and that which belongs to our loves... i can own trying to mash them all together, imagining there is some way to enjoy the compatibility of our baggage while ignoring (in some sense) the heaviness that has held me down for so many years. so.much.work.
thank you for articulating with such grace.
Thank you for reading and sharing your experience! It’s a tremendous gift to me, and to others.
Asha I'm going to read this one a couple of times over the weekend. There is a lot to dig into in this post. There many soul rippling moments in this piece but to pause too long in the first read would mean I wouldn't finish and to reach the end brings such completeness. It's like when you watch a movie that is so funny you have to watch it more than once because you laughed through some of the jokes.
Let me know your thoughts after you reread. I’d be curious to hear.