There is a passage in Sharon Salzberg’s book “Finding Your Way” I want to share with you. It’s about letting ourselves receive generosity, something I feel most of us don’t know how to.
“An action that increases the feeling of kindness and abundance in the world is generosity—whether small or large, whether you’re on the giving or receiving end. We are all vulnerable at different times and in different ways. The boundaries around the self become more porous when you are in need. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be cared for, and you give back when you can respond with delight and gratitude. When we receive in this way, we acknowledge the other’s humanity, dignity, and goodwill. We give because we want a better world, and we do our part to make it better when we receive in that same spirit.”
"Finally, if I dig all the way beneath even my anger at myself for carrying around these stories, I can see how they’re all about fear. Fear that there is not enough love to go around, and so I must constantly prove myself worthy, that I will never be a burden". Searing writing, Asha! This gives me a flashback to my late mother's anxiety about being a burden, not wanting to be looked after. Perhaps it was produced also by fear? That makes me feel sad. How could we take that fear away?
Dear Asha, I hope you’re feeling better.
There is a passage in Sharon Salzberg’s book “Finding Your Way” I want to share with you. It’s about letting ourselves receive generosity, something I feel most of us don’t know how to.
“An action that increases the feeling of kindness and abundance in the world is generosity—whether small or large, whether you’re on the giving or receiving end. We are all vulnerable at different times and in different ways. The boundaries around the self become more porous when you are in need. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be cared for, and you give back when you can respond with delight and gratitude. When we receive in this way, we acknowledge the other’s humanity, dignity, and goodwill. We give because we want a better world, and we do our part to make it better when we receive in that same spirit.”
"Finally, if I dig all the way beneath even my anger at myself for carrying around these stories, I can see how they’re all about fear. Fear that there is not enough love to go around, and so I must constantly prove myself worthy, that I will never be a burden". Searing writing, Asha! This gives me a flashback to my late mother's anxiety about being a burden, not wanting to be looked after. Perhaps it was produced also by fear? That makes me feel sad. How could we take that fear away?
I hope you feel better soon!