You did the right thing. On all counts. And now as well. Once we learn boundaries, really learn boundaries, it's not ok for others to cross them. No explanation needed. Stand back. Hold the line. Others with boundaries understand. Those without them, don't. That's on them, not us.
ohohoh I've had twinges these last few days... Really wanting to post remembrances of Melissa Hortman. And then I don't. The people I respect already know. Those I don't, don't deserve my time. Hold the line.
Yes! I hear you on Melissa Hortman. She was a personal friend of friends, so that part has been particularly galling. But those friends know. We are supporting each other privately.
And thank you for the solidarity. Holding the line is easier with a sense you’re not alone. ❤️
Well written, Asha. the maturity expressed is helpful to me and the world.
"I try really hard these days not to feed that beast, only posting when I have something to say that feels like it authentically rises up out of me, or amplifying the voices of folks offering substantive critique and analysis."
and
I don’t offer hot takes anymore. I don’t add my voice to the chorus of outrage or finger-pointing or emotional performance of the day because it doesn’t change anything, help anyone, or lessen my personal burdens. It just leaves me feeling utilized as a blunt tool in someone else’s toolbox, a trained seal hungry for the next treat. Except the seal-trainers aren’t anyone I care about. So, why am I dancing for them?"
Thank you for this. I've been struggling this week with the constant stream of hot (or lukewarm) takes on the Kirk situation, and you've provided some excellent food for thought.
Thank you for making the connection to our personal boundaries and sovereignty, when the media frenzy feels all kinds of wrong. This is such a ball of mess to untangle…and you have given us a clear and tangible thread to remember to follow, and to honor - for ourselves, and others. ❤️🙏🏻
You did the right thing. On all counts. And now as well. Once we learn boundaries, really learn boundaries, it's not ok for others to cross them. No explanation needed. Stand back. Hold the line. Others with boundaries understand. Those without them, don't. That's on them, not us.
ohohoh I've had twinges these last few days... Really wanting to post remembrances of Melissa Hortman. And then I don't. The people I respect already know. Those I don't, don't deserve my time. Hold the line.
Yes! I hear you on Melissa Hortman. She was a personal friend of friends, so that part has been particularly galling. But those friends know. We are supporting each other privately.
And thank you for the solidarity. Holding the line is easier with a sense you’re not alone. ❤️
Oh my goodness gracious, thank you for all of this. For your vulnerability, your rage, your boundaries and limits, for your clarity. 😋
I understand what you are saying, and it helps me understand why “remaining silent” isn’t always a bad thing.
Well written, Asha. the maturity expressed is helpful to me and the world.
"I try really hard these days not to feed that beast, only posting when I have something to say that feels like it authentically rises up out of me, or amplifying the voices of folks offering substantive critique and analysis."
and
I don’t offer hot takes anymore. I don’t add my voice to the chorus of outrage or finger-pointing or emotional performance of the day because it doesn’t change anything, help anyone, or lessen my personal burdens. It just leaves me feeling utilized as a blunt tool in someone else’s toolbox, a trained seal hungry for the next treat. Except the seal-trainers aren’t anyone I care about. So, why am I dancing for them?"
Thank you for this. I've been struggling this week with the constant stream of hot (or lukewarm) takes on the Kirk situation, and you've provided some excellent food for thought.
Co-signing every word of this. Yes.
Thank you for making the connection to our personal boundaries and sovereignty, when the media frenzy feels all kinds of wrong. This is such a ball of mess to untangle…and you have given us a clear and tangible thread to remember to follow, and to honor - for ourselves, and others. ❤️🙏🏻